Online dating - safety tips
Tip #1: Keep Your Personal Information Private
Unless you know who you're dealing with, do not provide your
personal information such as full name, address and phone
number. This will ensure your physical safety. Most people
are harmless and genuine about seeking a partner in love,
but the Web is full of individuals with ill intentions. This
is not to say that these individuals migrate to our site,
but common sense in any arrangement must be applied. This
same advice would hold true for meeting someone through the
newspaper personals and other options.
Tip #2: Carefully Choose Your Online Name
If you are female and you intend to spend your time online
in various chat rooms or signing up for various free e-mail
accounts and you don't want to invite sexual innuendo or the
virtual equivalent of a whistle and an uninvited sexual
reference, then choose a gender neutral name. Of course, if
your intention is to invite advances from men, then choose a
feminine name, but be prepared for an onslaught of advances.
This tip doesn't apply to women only, though, as the Web is
full of very assertive women who will target nicks of the
male variety. By choosing a gender-neutral identity online,
you afford yourself the option of revealing your gender
identity (or more) when you're comfortable in doing so.
Tip #3: Have Your Wits About You When Meeting in Real
Life
If and when you decide to meet your online friend, don't go
alone. Bring a group of friends along with you and schedule
your meeting during the day and in a public place. The
person you are meeting, if they are worthwhile, will agree
to your request to meet in the safest possible surroundings.
Tip #4: Trust Your Instincts
Too many of us don't trust our instincts and betray them,
often to our own detriment. Our instincts are always trying
to tell us something. Learn to trust your instincts. If
something about your online encounters feels uncomfortable,
you can almost bet that an in-person encounter will feel the
same. With this in mind, don't lead someone on in e-mail. If
you get an immediate sense that they are not your type, let
them know politely by giving them the digital equivalent of
"let's just be friends." If you lead someone on and their
emotions get the best of them, there will be trouble. If
they persist even after you have proclaimed disinterest,
ignore them. This includes their repeated e-mails. If this
doesn't work, retain their messages and forward them to
their online service provider. It is rare that situations
ever get to this point, but if they do, retaining such
information will assist you should you ever have to take
further action.
Tip #5: Beware of Totally Free Personals Services
Sure, there are an abundance of free personals services
across the Web. Many of the larger Web directories offer
such services. When a service is entirely free, be cautious
of the quality of the individuals with whom you correspond.
Free services are easy targets for devious or insincere
types because of that fact: they're free. More often than
not, individuals who opt for a pay service are usually
seeking quality, not only in the service itself, but in the
other people who also participate.
As with any online activity, the best advice for online
dating is pretty simple: exercise common sense. Think of the
Web in terms of a large city. If you were a tourist in
California, you wouldn't give your name, address, phone
number and credit card number to just anyone on the street.
Right?
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